On those nights, when you are walking down that memory lane all by yourself, a tear trickles down your cheek. You wonder whether the fork in the road was meant to be or whether this is just a temporary diversion. With millions of unanswered questions, you try staying strong but some days you just can’t help cave in. Is it to okay to be back with your ex or is it just like rereading the end of a book you just finished?
Tanvi Juwale considers it best to not pass a judgement on whether you should be or should not be getting back to your ex. But she does list down a few things you need to consider before you decide either way.
Mr. Lonely
It’s a bad bad world! When you are single, you see happy couples around. Once dating you miss being young free and wild! Grass is always greener on the other side but what if you don’t have the appetite for the greener grass? There are times when you feel alone and as a person it is completely normal to wish he would be here… to relive the magic, for the sparks to fly. But guess what? Sparks can ignite fire! So if you are lonely, choose that one friend instead, whom you can hang out with, whose shoulder you can cry on, who helps you forget time and more.
Booty call
So much for the booty calls, when you feel the sudden need to belong to your ex.Well it’s only your vulnerable self talking. If it is love, you will call him/ her when you are happy as well. Just because you need to cuddle, repeating history doesn’t make sense.
Can’t let go
Miss poking fun at the mascara strokes on her eyelids? Every relationship has its own version of fun. Common interests garner everything from those sweet nothings to those dramatic fights (sometimes even kiss and make up). There comes a point of time in almost every relationship where you have been the person who waited long enough before you could let go. But if this is the sole reason, it is venomous to both the persons involved in the relationship.
Skeletons in the closet
This means underlying problems. Your break up may have been a quite dramatic, but if there are a few unresolved issues and even regrets; stop before you put a foot into that drowning boat again.
Love
Courtesy all the chicklit novels and romantic movies, our perception of love is considerably manipulated. Sometimes you refuse to see what is right in front of your eyes and don’t give up no matter what.
Memories
Time may pass, but what stays are memories. But all those memories turn vicious, once you start missing your beau. While you may believe that you have been missing him/her, it is you missing memories more than the person himself. Bartering memories for the person may seem tempting but may not pay off well if you aren’t compatible.
Succumbing to your past and reconciling with your ex may or may not be a good option. Ugly breakups, nursing vengeful temptations, wanting to set him on fire? With all of this, getting back with each other , surely isn’t a good idea. Having said that, if you both of are willing to work out the differences, it is probably worth risking it. Sounds like a tempting huge leap of faith but repeating the history (at least with the same person) is never an option.